think on this.

dear het men:

You are not entitled to my body.
You do not deserve access into my pants.
I am not an object for you to receive or use as status.
If you find me attractive, I do not owe you a date.
If you find me unattractive, I do not owe you my invisibility.
I do not owe you anything, regardless of your feelings about me.

I am not a bitch for not being interested in you.
I am not a slut for dating someone other than you.
I am not your servant, trohpy, or mother if I do date you.

I am not to blame for your issues with women.
Women are not to blame for your issues with women.
We are not responsible for your inability to cope with rejection.
Stop blaming us.
It is not our fault.
We do not force you to do anything, just like you cannot force us.

Hopefully you’ve heard this all before.
But maybe no one’s ever told you. Or you just never listened.
Whichever, hear what I am saying now.
Listen to these words.
Remember them. Memorize them.
Tattoo them on your goddamn forehead.
YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO MY BODY.

(bike groggery)

For anybody who has ever watched the gendered social interactions of women — watched a woman get browbeaten into accepting attention she doesn’t want, watched a woman get interrupted while speaking, watched a woman deny she is upset at being insulted in public, watched a woman get grabbed because of what she was wearing, watched a woman stop arguing — and said and done nothing, you never have the right to ever ask, “Why didn’t she fight back?”

She didn’t fight back because you told her not to. Ever. Ever. You told her that was okay, and necessary, and right.

You didn’t give her a caveat. You didn’t say, “Unless…” You said, “Good for you, shutting up and backing down 99% of the time. Too bad that 1% of the time makes you a fucking whore who deserved it.”

Nobody obtains the superpower to behave dramatically differently during a frightening confrontation. Women will behave the same way they have been taught to behave in all social, professional, and sexual interactions. And they will be pretty goddamned surprised to come out the other end and find out that means they can legally be raped at any time, by just about anybody. (fugitivus)

the cycle of nice guyness

The cycle that leads to Nice Guyness®:  First, assume that women are not really human beings like you are, and therefore have no interest in sexual congress.  Conclude that therefore the only reason they associate with men is because they’re trying to game them.  Decide this gives you permission to treat women like they’re the Big Bad in some video game, an enemy to be conquered in order to get the prize of the vagina. Start to believe that women are gloating because they can touch a vagina whenever they want.  Get really angry, and start to hate women.  Your obvious anger and contempt runs off even more women.  Assume that they’re out to get you, are trying to keep you from the vagina out of pure malice.  Buy some books on seduction techniques that are Guaranteed Or Your Money Back from obvious hucksters.  Find a community of men who agree with you that women are basically evil bitch users, and therefore you’re not only justified in using manipulation techniques to overcome their will, but you’re a warrior for mankind to strike back at women for hoarding all the pussy.  If you’re lucky, you won’t nosedive into reading blogs that advocate rape as proper punishment for women who don’t give it up as instructed.

Never stop to think that many, many, many women happily have sex with men they’re attracted to every day, because it’s fun for everyone involved and not a matter of winners and losers. (pandagon)