(via Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal)
when C is out of town, i let things fall apart a little bit. clothes pile up on the floor. meals are eaten on the couch out of bowls, instead of eating from a plate at the table. clutter accumulates.
now that i am also sick, we have gone down another level. which means that i am currently lying on the floor, surrounded by used kleenex and half-empty water bottles, eating salami out of the package with my fingers.
Sickbed company http://ift.tt/1qOxqBh
things are going really well at work, you guys. after the past two years and then basically my whole entire professional career before then, i still get confused and bewildered when people treat me nice at work, or listen to my opinions and credit them as important and worth paying attention to, or show me any kind of appreciation or recognition of my work and value.
today we switched to a new online survey service provider in large part because i’d suggested it. at no point did anyone at the company, where they’ve done surveys professionally for a long period of time, suggest that they knew better just as a matter of experience and longevity. they were genuinely interested to investigate this new service and when it did turn out to be better, they wanted to buy it. when higher ups got interested and excited about it, at no point did anyone take credit for the idea or information.
being treated with respect feels so so so good.
‘-y’ Not? -
As early as the 13th century, reports the OED, verbs as well as nouns started taking on a y to “express the meaning ‘inclined or apt to’ do something, or ‘giving occasion to’ a certain action; … Chaucer has sleepy = soporific. In the 16th cent. arose choky, drowsy, slippy, sticky; later we find blowy, clingy, floaty, quavery, rollicky.”
So it’s a longtime thing. I’m convinced that we’re in the middle of another “prolific period,” in fact far more prolific than the sixteenth cent., in fact the most prolific one of all time. The nature of our current discourse—especially our online discourse—is such that a great premium is placed on saying things in new and unexpected ways, and also on saying things fast and shorthandy because, well, because cultural ADHD. Break down that great sentence “The neighborhoods get a lot less name-y in that part of Brooklyn.” It is saying something like, “In that part of Brooklyn, it’s often hard to tell precisely which neighborhood you are in at a given moment.” If anyone actually wrote, “In that part of Brooklyn, it’s often hard to tell precisely which neighborhood you are in at a given moment,” many if not most readers would be gone by the end of it, having left behind the dreaded abbreviation TLDR: too long, didn’t read.
i just realized that this week did not start off with a major, media-consuming event about how power exploits and hurts vulnerable groups of people. it’s not like the recent events - ray rice, holtzclaw, michael brown - have been resolved at all, much less satisfactorily, but it feels important that there’s not a new one added to the list.
THE SIGN SAYS “KEEP DOORS CLOSED BIRD PROBLEM” BUT THE DOOR IS OPEN BEWARE THE BIRD PROBLEM!!!!
One of the most radical things you can do is to actually believe women when they talk about their experiences. — Anita Sarkeesian (Anita Sarkeesian shares the most radical thing you can do to support women online | The Verge)
(Source: brutereason, via bedbugsbiting)
Caught myself absent - mindedly singing along to avril lavigne’s complicated. Audibly. While on the bus.
Libra: This week does not have to be such a big week; this week does not have to bear all the weight of the past and the future, and it does not have to bear the weight of all of your secret dreams. This week, try to give yourself a moment to rest. Take a bath, take a day off, take a minute to watch the sky. You’ve survived so many things already, and all you have to do this week is be very good to other people. All you have to do this week is be kind.
oh, shut up and leave me alone. it is almost my birthday and i will have a midlife crisis if i want to, with everything bearing all the weight of the past and future and my secret dreams. secret dreams don’t get actualized unless some week bears the weight of them. taking time off from that is not a moment to rest, it’s a moment to stagnate. otherwise years go by and you find yourself just where you were. you have to work for things you want. you even have to work for rest - to get the space and time and freedom to be able to rest. surviving things does not mean that things in the future come easy or come free or will just happen.
(yes i know i am arguing with a literary magazine horoscope.)
FCKH8 posted a statement on their blog yesterday in response to the Colorlines article that questioned the motives of their “I’m over racism” t-shirt and viral video. If you’re not caught up, here’s a rundown of how this whole thing started.
The post is of course, predictably defensive, patronizing and awful. There’s really too much to parse, but here are some of my “favorite” highlights. And by favorite, I mean eye-roll inducing.
"Shame on you…. Colorlines, Race Forward & Aura Bogado. Click-baiting, Race-baiting, Homophobia, Minimizing Ferguson Residents, Trivializing Breast Cancer Awareness Efforts & Distorting Facts to Get Views & Donations."
Uh. What? This is rich, a FOR PROFIT COMPANY is accusing an anti-racism non-profit organization of race baiting for donations?! This from the company that has not once spoken about anti-racism until Ferguson (way genuine!), and their contribution is….t-shirts and a $5 donation. Let’s also not forget their usage of the sassy black woman stereotype to promote marriage equality in addition to really gross memes featuring Native Americans. Way to promote anti-racism folks!
"We’ve received literally thousands of racist comments, e-mails, phone messages and live-chat notes from racist white people in reaction to these Ferguson kids speaking out. If you like the N-word, you have to read our inbox.”
OMG ya’ll! They stood up for us black folk and now racist people are sending the n-word to their inbox!? This. Is. Unfathomable. I’d bet a day in their inbox is equal to a lifetime of actually being black. Now I feel TERRIBLE. Racism sucks ya’ll. Send those people a t-shirt. Stat!
ps. when dealing with racist hate mail, filters are your friends. I speak from experience ;)
"With all the hate from racists that has been directed at these kids and at us, one of the most troubling sources has been a blogger named Aura Bogado at Colorlines, a blog put out by an organization you’d expect to be an ally called Race Forward. The blogger continues to fabricate controversy by saying, “FCKH8.com, has made a name for itself selling what it calls ‘LGBT Equality Gear.’” We’re not sure if mocking “LGBT Equality Gear” by placing it in quotes as if it is not real and legitimate is simply old-fashioned underhanded homophobia and trivialization but it looks like it.”
In case you’re unclear, critique from the community you claim to support is on the same level as ACTUAL HATE SPEECH from racists. And using quotes when….quoting an organization’s slogan is “underhanded homophobia”. (sorry for the quotes, promise I’m not a homophobe) Got it!
"This video was our collective effort to make a statement out of grief and pain and turn it into something positive, that challenges people to face race and say, like the T-shirt says, “Racism Is Not Over. But I’m Over Racism.” Was the video director a white guy? Yes. He’s directed videos on social issues which have received millions of views and we’d prefer that the video and message from the participating Ferguson families and kids be judged on the content of its character and not the color of the skin of the director who pitched in to help make it.”
"Judged on the content of it’s character and not the color of the skin of the director" (FYI I’m using quotes because I’m quoting FCKH8, not because I’m homophobic)….Why does that sound familiar? Oh! I know! That’s a hat tip to MLK! Totally see what you did there. Love it when people drop the ONE line they know from that ONE MLK speech they know to show how progressive and not racist they are. And don’t worry, I’m not judging the kids who are unnamed or credited in the video, on your website or in the video description box. They’re adorable.
"Perhaps one of the most unsettling parts of this click-baiting blog post beside trivializing Ferguson kids, is the deliberate use of a screen grab of the only white person to appear in the entire video. This image is employed to misrepresent the heartfelt effort of 7 black cast members speaking out, a black producer, a black and Latino co-writer and a black editor. Is this race-baiting for attention? Out of a cast of 8 people, 7 of which are black, this photo seems to have been chosen with the devious intention to race-bait and drum up justified resentment of how many whites treat and marginalize blacks and other POCs, all to gain attention and be sensational. Using race in this way is disingenuous, offensive and reduces the voices of both the local children in front of the camera and the people behind the camera."
Wait. There were black people involved in this project!? Well that changes everything. As we all know, black people are a monolith, so if a few co-sign a project, then we all have to agree with it. Oh, and thanks for throwing in a photo of a black guy holding a sign to support FCKH8’s call for an apology. That really drives the point home. I suggest we talk about this at the next national monthly black people meeting and hug it out.
If you need more evidence that FCKH8 is awful, this blog details the numerous times they’ve stolen content from LGBT artists, promoted stereotypes, been transphobic in addition to being racist and speaking down to the very communities they claim to support. Just remember, these are the folks that are demanding an apology.
Should We All Take a Bit of Lithium? - NYTimes.com -
Lithium is a naturally occurring element, not a molecule like most medications, and it is present in the United States, depending on the geographic area, at concentrations that can range widely, from undetectable to around .170 milligrams per liter. This amount is less than a thousandth of the minimum daily dose given for bipolar disorders and for depression that doesn’t respond to antidepressants. Although it seems strange that the microscopic amounts of lithium found in groundwater could have any substantial medical impact, the more scientists look for such effects, the more they seem to discover. Evidence is slowly accumulating that relatively tiny doses of lithium can have beneficial effects. They appear to decrease suicide rates significantly and may even promote brain health and improve mood.
i had a long and stupid day so i wanted to make myself a treat for dinner, so i made potato hash with the CSA potatoes and i got some chicken sausage to add as a super special treat - and the sausage was spiced, or something, and the whole dinner tasted like a pumpkin spice latte and i am sad and angry.
I want to see how many of you are out there and to show there are more of us than people think.
my current D&D character is based on beyonce. i have a song spell called XO.
we are talking about assessments today and people keep talking about the NWEA assessment, but they say it really fast, so it always sounds like the NWA assessment, and i cannot stop giggling. what would an NWA assessment look like? is it an assessment of NWA knowledge, or similarity to NWA, or … ?